Feeling Liberty move is one of the most exciting things I am looking forward to! It symbolises that THERE IS ACTUALLY a life is developing within me. Obviously seeing or hearing her isn’t enough, I need more!!

Most women feel the first movement of their baby, known as quickening, between weeks 16 and 24 and fetal movement during pregnancy is one of main things that can drive women crazy with questions and doubts. Mine being: when do I start to feel it? Is that her or just muscle pain? Is she okay because I haven’t felt her yet? Is it because my placenta is front facing (anterior placenta)? I am currently 23 weeks and confused with what I am feeling so panicking a little.

I am writing this post as need to provide myself with some reassurance that all is okay and also provide information to help other mums in my position by sharing some of the research I have found, and information provided by my midwife.

First things first, I need to understand that every baby is different when it comes to fetal movement and there’s a wide range of what’s normal, it helps to research what the ranges are and understand baby’s growth, and what to expect when and what it feels like?

My research commenced, and I got lucky on my first search question on google: ‘reasons why I haven’t felt my baby kick yet?’. I found some information that started to settle me straight away. One of the main reasons that some women can’t feel baby movement is because of the position of the placenta. If it’s facing front (an anterior placenta), it can soften the movements as the placenta can act as a cushion and  prolong feelings of movement for weeks. There I am checking my green notes and there it is – PLACENTA – Anterior.

Next question: what does it feel like when the baby moves?

Summarising about 50 different posts that I have read, they are almost as hard to describe as they are to recognise #helpful but the best descriptions comes from https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/fetal-development/fetal-movement/

There are as follows:

  • Flutter – like the “butterflies” you get when you’re nervous.
  • Waves – as though a little fish is swimming in there, which is pretty much what’s going on.
  • Twitch, nudge or even the growling of hunger pangs.
  • Feels like a bubble bursting.
  • That upside-down, inside out feeling you get on a roller coaster.

I feel like I have felt some of those feelings listed above especially flutters but not quite sure. I do know that when I do figure out which feelings are which in my body, I won’t be able to stop smiling . Never have I wanted someone to kick me ever but desperate for it now! As with all the information I have found, I need to drill into myself that every baby is unique and try not to compare my baby’s movements with those of others. But this does then lead onto ‘what happens if my baby’s movements are reduced?’ (breathe and don’t Panic, I will get onto that shortly, but the next question to search is ‘when are you most likely to feel the baby move?

Babies tend to move more at certain times of the day as they alternate between alertness and sleep. But you will likely find that baby is more active when:

  • You’ve settled down for the night – when you’re relaxed and more attuned to your body, you’re also more likely to be aware of what the baby is up to.
  • After you have eaten –  the surge in your blood sugar may give your baby a rush of energy.
  • When you’re nervous – adrenaline can have the same effect and give your little one a boost of energy too.
  • Babies also can respond to sounds or touch.

There is no set number of normal movements and yet again, it is that saying ‘every baby is different’. Feeling the baby move is a sign that they are well. A reduction in movement can sometimes be a warning sign that not all is right. One thing to remember that a baby doesn’t run out of room towards the end of pregnancy, so they shouldn’t kick less

I was given helpful fact sheet by the midwife at the week 21 baby development class which has lots of information and contact details if necessary about baby movement which I thought was great. The fact sheet highlighted that your first thought is right, if in doubt, call your midwife or maternity unit ASAP. Never hesitate because you are worried about phoning, it is important for your doctors and midwife to know what is going on with your baby’s movements. Don’t wait until the next day with the feeling that the movements will pick up and that you are overreacting, checking could save your baby’s life no matter how many times it happens (Sad to even be writing this).

I hope this has helped you as much as it has helped me. As you know Liberty is playing hard to get at the moment but will let you know when I start to work out her movement patterns #cantwait